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How To Feel Loved
by Admin Sat Sep 23, 2017 12:13 pm
1. Talk to strangers—or at least smile at the barista.
A half dozen recent studies demonstrate the power that a simple positive interaction with a stranger has to make us happier. In one study, researchers randomly assigned volunteers to talk to the stranger who sat down next to them on the train during their morning commute. Pretty much no one thought going in that they were going to enjoy giving up their morning solitude to make small talk with someone they didn’t know and would probably never see again.
But guess what?
The volunteers enjoyed their commute more than the people in the study who simply read their books and finish their crossword puzzles in silence. What’s more, not a single stranger snubbed the study participants. Other research indicates that the strangers whom participants chatted up in public spaces also think they won’t want to talk, but then end up enjoying themselves as well.
The takeaway is that often the easiest way for us to connect with others is to slow down just enough to make eye contact, smile, and—if we’re feeling brave—start a conversation. Research shows that just acknowledging someone else’s presence through eye contact and a smile helps people feel more connected.
2. Send loving thoughts to others.
When Fredrickson and her colleagues want to study what happens when people increase their daily diet of love, they simply ask people to do a loving-kindness meditation once a day. This is a private, quick, no-contact-with-others way to give. Also called metta, loving-kindness meditation is the simple practice of directing well wishes toward others. Loving-kindness meditation isn’t complicated—it really isn’t anything more than using your imagination to send love and well wishes to others—but this practice, for many people, is more effective than Prozac.
If you are going to do only one thing today to bring more love and connection into your life, do this.
Even if you aren’t likely to sit in meditation everyday sending good thoughts to yourself and others, you can use metta throughout the day as a tactic to increase feelings of well-being, compassion, and connection. Perhaps put a sticky note on your bathroom mirror, refrigerator door, or car dashboard—wherever you tend to be most exhausted or overwhelmed or isolated—to remind you to pause and cultivate a loving thought or two.
3. Master the most important relationship skill in the history of the universe.
Perhaps the most useful skill we can master for building strong connections with others is the ability to deliver an effective apology. When a relationship starts to break down, the best repair, bar none, is almost always an apology.
Think about it: If a relationship is dented or sputtering, someone probably made a mistake. Perhaps it was a benign comment—a well-meaning but poorly understood suggestion—or maybe it was more toxic—you got caught in a lie, or didn’t follow through on a commitment.
People make mistakes in relationships All. The. Time. Not just bad people, or weak people—all people. Our mistakes are what make us human. And even when we don’t think we’ve made a mistake, other people will often find the errors in our ways. We human beings are walking offenders.
A half dozen recent studies demonstrate the power that a simple positive interaction with a stranger has to make us happier. In one study, researchers randomly assigned volunteers to talk to the stranger who sat down next to them on the train during their morning commute. Pretty much no one thought going in that they were going to enjoy giving up their morning solitude to make small talk with someone they didn’t know and would probably never see again.
But guess what?
The volunteers enjoyed their commute more than the people in the study who simply read their books and finish their crossword puzzles in silence. What’s more, not a single stranger snubbed the study participants. Other research indicates that the strangers whom participants chatted up in public spaces also think they won’t want to talk, but then end up enjoying themselves as well.
The takeaway is that often the easiest way for us to connect with others is to slow down just enough to make eye contact, smile, and—if we’re feeling brave—start a conversation. Research shows that just acknowledging someone else’s presence through eye contact and a smile helps people feel more connected.
2. Send loving thoughts to others.
When Fredrickson and her colleagues want to study what happens when people increase their daily diet of love, they simply ask people to do a loving-kindness meditation once a day. This is a private, quick, no-contact-with-others way to give. Also called metta, loving-kindness meditation is the simple practice of directing well wishes toward others. Loving-kindness meditation isn’t complicated—it really isn’t anything more than using your imagination to send love and well wishes to others—but this practice, for many people, is more effective than Prozac.
If you are going to do only one thing today to bring more love and connection into your life, do this.
Even if you aren’t likely to sit in meditation everyday sending good thoughts to yourself and others, you can use metta throughout the day as a tactic to increase feelings of well-being, compassion, and connection. Perhaps put a sticky note on your bathroom mirror, refrigerator door, or car dashboard—wherever you tend to be most exhausted or overwhelmed or isolated—to remind you to pause and cultivate a loving thought or two.
3. Master the most important relationship skill in the history of the universe.
Perhaps the most useful skill we can master for building strong connections with others is the ability to deliver an effective apology. When a relationship starts to break down, the best repair, bar none, is almost always an apology.
Think about it: If a relationship is dented or sputtering, someone probably made a mistake. Perhaps it was a benign comment—a well-meaning but poorly understood suggestion—or maybe it was more toxic—you got caught in a lie, or didn’t follow through on a commitment.
People make mistakes in relationships All. The. Time. Not just bad people, or weak people—all people. Our mistakes are what make us human. And even when we don’t think we’ve made a mistake, other people will often find the errors in our ways. We human beings are walking offenders.
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Re: How To Feel Loved
by Admin Mon Oct 23, 2017 7:06 pm
Excellent!
That's weird! It dodn't post my whole comment, testing~
That's weird! It dodn't post my whole comment, testing~
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Re: How To Feel Loved
by Admin Mon Oct 23, 2017 7:07 pm
Excellent!
I love this! Did you write it?
I'm digging the cadence!
I love this! Did you write it?
I'm digging the cadence!
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Re: How To Feel Loved
by Lightworld1 Fri Jan 05, 2018 12:41 pm
How to Feel Loved: be positive & kind to people irrespective of their class,show love and caring, have passion,don't be oppressive to anyone, be merciful to the helpless people, be helpful to the society/community, this way you are loved,and harmony,peace, and love will reign for others to follow your direction and continue spreading the Love and light to take over the world
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